When I first came to the school that my kids go to, Billie-Violet was in the same class as this very cool kid Georgie.
Georgie’s mum Sunnie is the most lovely women, her kindness and generosity reaches everyone she meets, she promptly invited me over to her house and I’m not kidding when I say that she was the first (and last) person to ever bake me a cake for my visit. No shit, I almost died, even my mum has never baked me a cake (sorry mum but it’s true).
My dear friend Sunnie’s beautiful boy Georgie amongst other thing happens to have Autism.
When I recently asked her what the biggest challenge of raising a boy with Autism was and she responded that it was the judgements.
Comments like “control your child” and “what’s wrong with him” upset Sunnie so much in the past.
And I was shocked that one of the biggest challenges in a condition that we have no control over was also the one thing that we DO have control over, OUR behaviour.
It didn’t upset her for long, being a wise and resilient mum, Sunnie decided to protect her boy by arming people with knowledge,
she made these cards and kindly hands them out to the people her and Georgie meet.
Sunnie told me that she now never apologises for Georgie’s behaviour, she just hands out these cards and always takes the opportunity to educate anyone on Autism and has such a positive and supportive response.
She told me about a time when Georgie was getting very agitated during a train ride, Sunnie was feeling really uncomfortable expecting people to get upset with him, instead she was blown away by a uni student Queen who said “it’s ok, I’ll play with him” and the two of them had a great time on the train jumping up and down, laughing. Georgie’s happiness is contagious and #queensrule
Amazing Sunnie had the following advice for anyone facing the Autism diagnosis,
- Don’t waste your time blaming anyone or anything, don’t waste your time with questions like “why?”, use your time to find out “How” you are going to show your beautiful child the world through their very special eyes.
- Make sure Science is backing up any theory or treatment you go with.
- Do whatever it takes to make YOU happy, your child will be happy if you are.
- Finally, embrace Autism. Be proud of Autism.
And as a mum who doesn’t have a child with Autism, I am so grateful to have friends open enough to share these experiences with me, I learn so much from friends with children who have disabilities and I am so grateful to have friends like Sunnie who are so open about disabilities because I have so many questions but I am always afraid to ask, I was even scared to write this post in case there was something that will offend someone or wasn’t written with the right terms.
But it’s a tribute to a dear friend who has inspired me and so I went ahead with it.
I love the cards she has made, I love that Sunnie has used her strength to change her situation and I love that we can use our Queenliness to improve other people’s experiences while learning more about Autism.